SIZE matters...

Lets talk about it. Penis, Dick, Cock, Pene, Bicho, Pinga.  Let's be realistic we never hear about a person saying they want a guy with a small or average size penis . Even if the guy has everything going for him, if he can't seem to please his partner with what God gave him, that may be the deal breaker.  Ok we already established that, Many of us insist that we are not "hoes" for wanting a man with a sizeable gift but we just "know what we want". Fine.
 
Lets talk about the guy that wants to be seen for more than for whats in between his legs because guess what, they are out there, and they want love and appreciation for their mind, their spirit and their ability to be a good man to you in your relationship, not just an occasional jumpoff, one night stand or cut buddy.  For some people size matters but last night I met someone who was looking for someone who can get pass that. For him personality matters, intelligence matters, connection matters.
 
I had seen him in his underwear for the first time since knowing him and my eyes pierced up and down his body. He had been working out way more than previously thought and his body was coming together very well.  The record scratching moment was when I got his crotch area and realized while he wasn't hard he was extremely well endowed penis, balls the whole works.  We weren't going to do anything but I was awfully curious as to what the hell was going on between his legs.
 
Being the sexually liberated person I am, I made a passing a comment of course about his workout effort but also about him being well endowed.  While I expected this be a compliment, this brought out a slight insecurity about it.  To be a black man and hung like, one would think it would be considered more than a blessing.  For him it has become an absolutely curse.  He's a college graduate, lives in a decent neighbourhood, owns his car,smart, young, talented, handsome, works out and has an aspiring career in broadcasting and yet he is looked as a penis with legs.  It's very similar to how most men look at women as a face, tits and legs or a face, booty and legs and every thing else seems to come as a secondary priority. 
 
When working out, people often gather around him while he working out just to see his ding a ling flop around in his track pants or even in the early morning when he goes jogging, it's as if his neighbours stalks him with their eyes and while again for some people this may be a huge ego booster for him it's awkward and downright annoying.  Try being flagged by lifeguards and beach patrol for "indecent exposure", or better yet accussed of shoplifting because of the inappropriate bulge in his slacks or jeans.  Meanwhile this constant harrassment is all a ploy by many to get him "prove" to them that whats in his slacks is the real deal.  After speaking to him, I realized that not only is it harrassment, not only is it a nuisance but isn't this illegal? Would you ask a woman to unbutton her blouse to prove that she isn't "hiding merchandise" in her tits? Meeting guys albeit in the club or online is a big enough problem as it is but you know how the tacky size queens are a bit overjoyed when they see a handsome man, a car, nice body, dressed well and a bulge that won't quit.  The conversation quickly goes from "so what do you do for a living" to "damn I wanna ride your dick". 
 
I quickly took back my compliment because I wanted to make sure that he knew that I saw him as more than just meat between his legs.  He also made me realize it is about how you approach a person that determines the outcome. I know for me, it reinforces my rule that I set back in 2008, that I would keep compliments about someones body to myself! There's something way more genuine about the interaction then hearing or saying "you're so sexy", "damn your body is nice", "you got a fat ass", etc etc etc.  
According to him, he didn't take any offense however had it been someone else...then you know it'd be alot different. Luckily, we're just friends

I wrote this because I wanted to bring attention to a subject that is talked about but not looked at from another point of View.
 
Thoughts?