Going Against The Grain (Part II): No Judgements, No Bias, Your Opinions!

I asked the question: Have you ever had to compromise your ideal type in order to achieve happiness whether you're dating, in a relationship or in the past? What was the outcome your answers will be entered in my blog if I do so have your permission. in congruence with my last blog "Going Against The Grain" and here are some of my responses via twitter and yahoo take a look.

Tyler Lewis of http://tigger500.typepad.com wrote
I don't have a type so I don't compromise, I look for a flexibility in how people relate and generally avoid people who act as though they know what they want because they too often confuse "need" with "want". People who make lists and count what they do or don't do and what they get from their partner don't interest me. I look for people who understand that relationships are partnership not in a cheesy way but people who understand that i am a separate, whole individual and they are too. This kind of person is exceedingly rare hence, why i enjoy being single.
Everyone i've dated or fucked has been different in some way, i'm not overly concerned with looks.


@VonnisLove via Twitter: I have not compromise my ideal type because the ideal fluctuate over time. You change as a person and so does your likes and dislikes. Happiness and true feelings from where you least expect it. In general I think I have compromise the ideal vision of myself to gain happiness in the dating world and thats just hard to recover. You tend to put urself in situations and act with people you normally dont affliate with and thats the harm u can do to yourself


@datHarlembOi via Twitter: I have had to copromise my ideal type. I think everyone has dreams of the "ideal type" but you have to realize that in order to be happy you have to meet people where they are n life, and also u have to be able to compromise in order to have a successful friendship, relationship, dating, or a fuck!!


@CharmUrSoxOff via Twitter: Of course, beacuse nobody is perfect. When you decide to commit to someone, relationship wise, you agree to take the good with the bad... the ideal with the not so ideal. Love is so much more than finding the perfect person, it's about finding the perfect person FOR YOU, flaws and all


Jose G, of NY wrote via yahoo: All the time, well a few times I have. Sometimes a person get tired of finding the same bullshit in guys, same lies, and same tired ol games so you choose to give someone else a chance. someone that ideally is not your type (not too far from it) but nonetheless your ideal type. I guess thinking that this new persons physical and mental difference is going to make a "difference" in your relationship or a better relationship with turn out from it. In the other hand, sometimes changing your ideal type of guy/girl does not solve the problem. Sometimes you try to make a different pick of individuals and they end up being the same type of guy/girl in the inside. It all depends on the chemistry between you and that other person. Thats what I believe.


Reimonenq, New Orleans via Yahoo wrote: Looks are revelant as longs as you are happy. Beauty comes in many shapes and sizes. Money it comes n goes but a lifetime partner is once in a lifetime. Happiness is the key


Bratt, NY wrote Never I stayed true to myself. And realize relationships are not for me. I am much happier not having to be accountable for someone else's feelings


@Ahmaud via Twitter wrote Can't say that I have


@gotChauncey via Twitter wrote Nope sorry


@BITCHwerMyMONEY via Twitter wrote Well u always have to compromise, no man is perfect, I want a lot out of a man but I have to compromise a lot of times


Anonymous, D.C. wrote via yahoo wrote I dated someone who was nothing like me, hiv neg and very much in the closet, the relationship was exquisite, we learned things from each other that we couldnt have learned from dating our own types. Love transcends labels and identities. Even though we are no longer a couple, we have evolved our love to brotherhood some that most people cant call their friends or lovers.

@MellowShawty via Twitter wrote it always ends badly and the worse part about it, you feel like a fool n the end for settling n still ending up hurt alone n fucked up n the game

Wow! I appreciate everyones responses to my question and hopefully, I'll be able to re-visit this topic.